When we think of the 4th of July in the U.S., we are reminded of independence and freedom. Are you truly free?
I invite you to think about the following 5 questions below.
- Are you free from other people’s beliefs or are you carrying the beliefs of your parents, your friends, your teachers and society?
- Do you worry about what others think of you so you conform to the masses?
- Are you not letting your true self shine for fear that you’ll be judged or won’t be liked?
- Are you saying Yes, instead of No to just please others?
- Are you putting yourself last on the “to do” list?
If you answered ‘yes’ to these questions, I invite you to continue reading.
First of all, be aware that your primary beliefs were created from birth to age 7. It’s highly probable that you’re holding onto beliefs of others – especially your parents. So anytime you think a negative or fearful thought, clear your mind. You can tell yourself “I don’t need to think this thought.”
Next, you are meant to live an authentic, joyful life. You need to be YOU and honor yourself with every choice you make. Your uniqueness is what makes you special. People will love you for who you are. And if they don’t, they’re not your true friends or colleagues. Get yourself new ones. Like-minded people will find you.
Since your business is an extension of you, it should express your individuality. Sure, it’s okay to see what others are doing but ultimately you need to follow your heart. Be different. That’s what will make you stand out from the crowd. You’ll attract clients that resonate with you and your message.
When you don’t want to say Yes, you don’t have to! Your No is your birthright. I love this quote by Vernon Howard. “Happiness is to not have to explain anything to anyone.” He goes on to say that timid explanations and apologies are based in fear. So don’t say yes when you really want to say NO.
Put yourself first. It’s not selfish or greedy. I know that most of us were brought up with putting other first. I sure was. In fact, I’ll tell you a quick story of what happened in my family. My family and I went to my grandmother’s house for a holiday dinner. The minute she opened the door to greet us it was obvious that she suffered a stroke right before our very eyes. We gently tried to tell her, but she refused to listen. After all, she had prepared a feast for us and the food couldn’t go to waste! She insisted that we come in and eat. She also insisted to serve us the meal herself. After we ate, she gave us permission to drive her to the emergency room. I was raised in a family where the women always sacrificed themselves for others. It’s not an easy habit to break. I’m consciously working on breaking this pattern so that my children and future generations won’t be this way. When you put yourself first on the “to do” list, you’ll be a better partner, a better mother, a better friend, a better business woman.
Are you willing to make new choices to be truly free?