That's When the Mean Girl Found Her Voice

Doing all of this work around self-love is not without its perils. It takes a great deal of self-examination to come to a place of acceptance of one’s self.

What I know now is that the primary blocks to self love are shame and guilt. They feed the inner critic; Let’s call her the Inner Mean Girl. Actually I have given her a name – Lola Loveless.

Lola’s been the one that constantly telling me I am not good enough and not worthy of love. She is so pre-occupied with my mistakes and failures, that’s all she sees. She is the drama queen that has invited in all my negativity and kept it tied to a chair until she was ready for it to do her bidding. She takes full credit for the all behaviors that stop me from living life to the fullest.

Finally, it was time for me to find out why I have allowed Lola to stop me. I wanted to know why I was not as successful in my business and relationships as I could be. I started by asking the question, “What shameful incident helped Lola Loveless find her voice”?

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